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Stop playing the Victim Card – Will you?

If you want to achieve something remarkable in life than work really hard towards it and simply let your work speak. The world should recognize you by your work and nothing else. Let your work be evaluated solely based on your performance rather than your unfortunate past. You may have been a victim of any of the circumstances that you encountered during the journey of your life, but don’t ever try to cash on your past or for that reason let anyone else take advantage of the same.

Nowadays, if we look around, then we will realize that present marketing world likes to cash a lot on the victim card. Just watch any of the reality shows being telecast on Television/Internet and you will come to know that how the victim card is being overly used in the marketing world. And this is not only restricted to the reel world, but the real world is equally infected with such kind of publicity tactics, wherein someone’s unfortunate past is used as a means to publicize their work.

I do agree that in spite of being a victim, you came out as a winner or a survivor. And for that reason, your life is definitely a motivation for millions of us and indeed we do respect your courage and attitude. But still, it doesn’t mean that your work should always have a layer of your unfortunate past, for it to get noticed. Your personality and your good work are enough a reason for the world to recognize your talent. So just stop playing the victim card, every now and then.

On the one hand, you don’t want the sympathies of others, while, on the other hand, when it comes to marketing your work, you don’t even hesitate for a second before playing your victim card. Isn’t this a sheer case of double standards? Isn’t all such acts equivalent to cheap publicity? If you believe that you have worked really hard then do note that you certainly don’t need such emotional marketing strategies to grab the attention of others.

Do mind that true professionals will never let anything else supersede their work. Did you ever see a successful person talking about their difficult past, about their struggles or about the unfortunate events of their life, every time before showcasing their work or their talent? No, they don’t talk about all such things before walking out in the playground; rather they just let their bat hit the home run. But yes, they do talk about all these things in their autobiography, in motivational speeches or when they are asked about it. And that is how it should be like.

I do hope that henceforth we will maintain our dignity and not play the victim card just for seeking attention. I mean most of us in order to achieve something in our life have to pass all the tests that life throws towards us. So everyone deserves their work to be treated and evaluated at par, rather than someone getting a biased decision based on their emotional appeals. Let the good work win the race.

I wish that the Almighty give enough strength to each one of us for overcoming all the odds in our life and grant us with good sense. Do take a very good care of yourself and stay safe always.

Be in touch.

God Bless you all!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Belief, Brave, Courage, Hope, Human Tendency, Inspiration, Life, Management Lessons, Motivation, Personality, Survivor

Let us celebrate ‘FAILURE’

This blog is dedicated to each one of us. Yes, we all want to achieve success and only success, each and every single time. We all try to run away from the very fact that there is always a probability of failing, in anything that we are going to attempt. But let us all accept the hard core reality that each and every one of us is going to fail, sometimes or the other. We all get depressed with our failed attempts, every now and then. But when it comes to success, we enjoy it like anything. Time and again, this question appears in my mind that is this the right way to deal with failure?

Ever thought that why we treat failure with such inferiority? Is getting depressed and feeling bad about failures, the right kind of attitude to carry on? Aren’t success and failure like two sides of the coin? Can success be achieved without failing ever? Isn’t failure the stepping stone towards achieving success? I sometimes think that is there anything wrong in failing? Why is the failure not accepted at ease in our society? Why is the failure not taken as a usual thing? Isn’t failure an important ingredient of the recipe named as success? So what if one eventually doesn’t succeed? So what if someone was throughout the life a failure? Why can’t we recognize their efforts, irrespective of the end results? Why do we look upon the people who fail, as if they are an inferior soul? Is there anyone on earth who hasn’t failed ever in their life?

I have experienced ‘Failure’ throughout my life. I have failed at least once, in almost everything that I have ever tried. I started my journey of life with a failed attempt when I tried to crawl for the very first time and I failed even when I took my first step to walk. I failed in my exams, in my relationships, in the games that I played, in the arguments, in the fights, in the projects that I handled and the list goes, on and on. I failed at my home, at my workplace, at streets, all in all, there is no place left where I haven’t failed yet. I even failed to save someone’s life. But in spite of these failures, each and every time, I won something that I am always proud of. “I won the lifetime ‘experience’ from every failure”.

Since we attach celebrations with winning, so isn’t failure an occasion to celebrate? Yes, it is something to celebrate about, but, if and only if, we are determined to learn from our failures. I believe that “Failure is the best teacher”. So why to disregard one of our best teachers? We should rather give the due respect this teacher named ‘Failure’ deserves from us and the best way to pay back is by embracing the learning that every failed attempt brings with it. I am sure failure pops up a common question in most of the minds i.e. “Why Me”. Instead, we should learn from our failures by asking ourselves the question that “What’s there for Me” to learn from this failure.

Success is a journey of ‘learning’ which should be measured by the quantum of learning gained, rather than the result achieved”. It’s rightly said that it is far better to fail, then to never try. So keep trying and do whatever your heart wants you to pursue. Don’t care about failure or success. Do remember that in the end what will matter is the baggage of experience one carries with them. It’s the only thing one will be looked upon for sharing with the generations to come. Obviously, the success achieved also brings with it immense learnings. Hence, what we all should be caring about is ‘learning’. Learn from each and everything. Let the fire of learning be always ignited in your heart.

So, stop caring about others and let’s “Flaunt and Celebrate our failures”. After all, the count of failures will always outnumber the winners; as such, we will always have the privilege to, at least, boast about the gathering in our celebration. Let the world envy us for enjoying our failures. Let’s get over the rat race of running after success. Stop thinking about the end results and start enjoying the efforts behind the failed attempts.

Do take a good care of yourself and be in touch.

God Bless you all!

Peyush Jain