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I am Judgemental – Are You too?

Today, I am here to accept and reveal the fact that I am Judgemental (as if anyone cares). Okay, I accept that I am mental too, but that’s not the point of discussion in this blog, so you better concentrate on the core issue right now, instead of forcing me to reveal all my unique characteristics here. You can accuse me as much as you want but that’s still not going to change the fact, even a bit. I am Judgemental and I am going to stay like that forever.

Sorry to disappoint you, but I am not ashamed in accepting the fact that I am Judgemental. On the contrary, I feel proud of “Being Judgemental”. Hey, what did you just murmur? You think it’s a matter of shame for me? Trust me, after reading this blog, you yourself are going to be desperate enough to “Be Judgemental” [Shhh! This is a trap to make you read my blog (*Winks*)].

To start with, let us refer a dictionary to check and understand what does the word ‘Judgemental’ actually mean? Out of the 7 definitions available, I think the one that most appropriately defines the word Judgemental is “The capacity to assess situations or circumstances shrewdly and to draw sound conclusions”. [Reference: Word Web Dictionary, the free version (I am miser too)].

Now let us try to dissect and understand the essence of this definition.

  • The capacity to assess situations or circumstances” – The definition starts with these words, which actually refers to the potentiality of someone to evaluate situations or circumstances. These carefully chosen words indicate towards a person who possesses the skill to appraise situations/circumstances/individuals that come across her/him.
  • Shrewdly” – Then comes the word shrewdly in the definition. The word Shrewd herewith means “Marked by practical hard-headed intelligence”. Practical hard-headed means that the level of intelligence needs to be guided by practical experience and observation rather than theory. [Reference: Word Web Dictionary].
  • And to draw sound conclusions” – The definition ends with these words, which in fact means that the ultimate aim towards assessing anything is to draw sound conclusions. A sound conclusion may signify an outcome which is good enough or which can be logically validated. These words represent that Judgemental Person’s always aspire to achieve sound results by their judgements.

Hence, from the above-mentioned definition, we can conclude that “A Judgemental person signifies someone who is smart and capable enough to evaluate situations/circumstances/individuals, with a practically hard-headed intelligence, in order to draw sound conclusions”. Ahem! Doesn’t the word “Judgemental” or “Being Judgemental” sound good all of a sudden? And till now you were unnecessarily feeling bad over someone calling or rather accusing you of “Being Judgemental”.

I am sure after reading and most importantly ‘understanding’ the above definition, the majority of the readers will agree with me that they are Judgemental and there is nothing wrong in “Being Judgemental”. (See I am again Judgemental to think that majority of the readers are smart enough). In fact “Being Judgemental” is the best trait one can and should possess. So don’t you all think that you are smart enough to possess this quality of “Being Judgemental”?

In case you still have some doubts left, then also nothing to worry about because I am not going to leave you in the middle of nowhere and vanish just like that. In the following paragraphs, I will try to explain with the logic that how and why “Being Judgemental” is extremely important for all of us (just like intake of oxygen).

Do you take any decision based on your Gut Feelings? Did you ever give it a thought that how your gut feelings actually work? Let me tell you that “Gut feelings work only when we are Judgemental about a situation/circumstance/individual”. Hence, the prerequisite for Gut Feelings is “Being Judgemental”. If you are not Judgemental in assessing a situation or a person well in advance, then do you even think that it will be possible for you to take any decision based on your gut feelings?

All those who encounter situations wherein they have to make choices based on their gut feelings are in a far better position to understand this point. Say, for example, you are all alone on a lonely road, at some odd hour of the day, and you desperately need help from someone to drop you home. Now in this situation, just think that will you blindly take help from the very first person who arrives on that lonely road or will you activate your gut feelings to decide from whom you need to take help, out of all those persons who come forward to offer you help? Without fail you have to be Judgemental in this situation so that you can save yourself from an alarming situation. Hence, knowingly or unknowingly we all are Judgemental.

Irrespective of all the above positive sides about “Being Judgemental”, let me warn you that there is a negative side attached to it as well. The only problem with “Being Judgemental” arises when we are not ready to accept the ‘reality’ over our judgement. I mean a lot many times our judgement will turn out to be wrong (For your information, my ratio of Judgement turning out to be wrong is 100%).

In all such situations when our judgement goes wrong, what is required from our end is to show some maturity and accept the fact that we are humans, and hence, we can go wrong at times in judging the people or the output of any circumstance/situation. Sticking to our Judgement, even after it turns out to be wrong, is simply foolishness on our part. Instead, it will be better on our part to accept the reality and take learning from it, so that we can be a better Judge the next time. If we can win over this shortcoming of ours then trust me “Being Judgemental” is a characteristic which everyone should possess and in fact feel proud about it.

I hope that it is very much clear now that there goes a lot of thought process in “Being Judgemental”. So each one of you should be extremely proud for “Being Judgemental” and pat your back for owning such a good quality (*Collars Up*). All those who still have any doubts on this subject matter are requested to read this blog again and again, till they get assured about the goodness of this characteristic.

The next time anyone accuses you of “Being Judgemental”, do thank him/her/it (‘it’ because even robots can accuse us in this digital age). And don’t you dare forget to thank me in your mind on every such occasion, else I am going to Judge you as “Being Ungrateful” (*Coughs*).

God Bless you all! Stay in touch.

Peyush Jain

Posted in Belief, Equality, Human Tendency, Inspiration, Life, Motivation, Past, Personality, Slogging, Survivor, Talent, Victim

Stop playing the Victim Card – Will you?

If you want to achieve something remarkable in life than work really hard towards it and simply let your work speak. The world should recognize you by your work and nothing else. Let your work be evaluated solely based on your performance rather than your unfortunate past. You may have been a victim of any of the circumstances that you encountered during the journey of your life, but don’t ever try to cash on your past or for that reason let anyone else take advantage of the same.

Nowadays, if we look around, then we will realize that present marketing world likes to cash a lot on the victim card. Just watch any of the reality shows being telecast on Television/Internet and you will come to know that how the victim card is being overly used in the marketing world. And this is not only restricted to the reel world, but the real world is equally infected with such kind of publicity tactics, wherein someone’s unfortunate past is used as a means to publicize their work.

I do agree that in spite of being a victim, you came out as a winner or a survivor. And for that reason, your life is definitely a motivation for millions of us and indeed we do respect your courage and attitude. But still, it doesn’t mean that your work should always have a layer of your unfortunate past, for it to get noticed. Your personality and your good work are enough a reason for the world to recognize your talent. So just stop playing the victim card, every now and then.

On the one hand, you don’t want the sympathies of others, while, on the other hand, when it comes to marketing your work, you don’t even hesitate for a second before playing your victim card. Isn’t this a sheer case of double standards? Isn’t all such acts equivalent to cheap publicity? If you believe that you have worked really hard then do note that you certainly don’t need such emotional marketing strategies to grab the attention of others.

Do mind that true professionals will never let anything else supersede their work. Did you ever see a successful person talking about their difficult past, about their struggles or about the unfortunate events of their life, every time before showcasing their work or their talent? No, they don’t talk about all such things before walking out in the playground; rather they just let their bat hit the home run. But yes, they do talk about all these things in their autobiography, in motivational speeches or when they are asked about it. And that is how it should be like.

I do hope that henceforth we will maintain our dignity and not play the victim card just for seeking attention. I mean most of us in order to achieve something in our life have to pass all the tests that life throws towards us. So everyone deserves their work to be treated and evaluated at par, rather than someone getting a biased decision based on their emotional appeals. Let the good work win the race.

I wish that the Almighty give enough strength to each one of us for overcoming all the odds in our life and grant us with good sense. Do take a very good care of yourself and stay safe always.

Be in touch.

God Bless you all!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Belief, Happiness, Hope, Inspiration, Life, Management Lessons, Motivation, Personality, Talent

Identify your “Real Talent” and pursue it – Period

What’s your real talent? By “real talent”, I mean the one thing which you are passionate about, the one thing which gives meaning to your very existence and the one thing which you enjoy doing, irrespective of any kind of monetary or other benefits attached to it. If you think that you can do justice to this one thing “with your whole heart”, then that is where your real talent lies.

So now tell me what your real talent is. Hello, no need to look around. Yes, I am asking you and only you. Speak up, I am waiting. Oh yes, you guessed it right, I am stubborn and not going to leave you, till I get an answer from you. Do you think you can escape from me? Just to enlighten you – I am a ghost. I will haunt you wherever you go (Ahem! Yes, everywhere). I am sure, now you realize it that you are left with no other option but to speak your mind out. Alas! You have landed at a wrong place and without fail you will have to reveal about your talent. So just start, I am all eyes and ears…

Wait, what did you just murmur? Are you confused about your talent? Oh come on; now don’t be sad, there is nothing to worry about. We will work as a team and try to figure out what you are best at. Sounds good, right? So are you ready for the challenge? If yes, then let us start a new journey towards an unexplored destination. Gear up, wear your thinking cap on, tighten your seat belt and with a peaceful mind, step on the accelerator. This is definitely going to be a life changing expedition.

At the start, let me make it very clear that most of us are not fortunate enough to know our talent “just like that”. The majority of the normal human beings have to dig deep inside their own self to find out their real talent. And mind it, that’s not an easy task. It needs a high degree of patience and self-awareness. So make sure that you take this task with utmost seriousness and dedication, in order to achieve your goal i.e. identifying your real talent or the very purpose of your life.

Being aware, “in and out” about yourself, places you in the best position to locate your hidden talent. On the contrary, other’s can simply guide you or help you to identify your potentials. But ultimately it’s you and only you who have to identify your real talent and work towards it because no one else knows you better, then you do. Similarly, this blog will serve as a helping hand in understanding the process of how to identify your talent, which you can further pursue and hone it. But like anything else, this will also help only when you seriously work towards it.

Do remember that it’s your life and you have to take charge of all the decisions that affects you. If you hesitate to do it right now, you are surely going to regret it later on. And trust me in the later phase of your life regretting won’t help much. So it’s my earnest request to each one of you that before it’s too late, “Identify your real talent and pursue it – Period”.

Now as soon as you start thinking in this direction, the first and obvious question that hits your mind is that how to identify that very activity which you are best at or in other words the real talent of yours? This question could very well be answered by applying the technique of identifying your real talent. This technique is divided into three simple steps –

  1. In the first step, you need to engage your mind in figuring out the various activities which you seriously think you are good at. You should jot down each and every single activity which you could think of. Even if you think that something is too weird, you should still not hesitate in writing it down. It is interesting to note here that once your mind starts working on it, there is a very high probability of you getting the below-mentioned thoughts –

a) You have no idea about any of your talents.

b) You think that you are not talented in any of the fields.

c) You are aware of your talent.

If you got any of the above three thoughts, then it’s a good sign because you have started thinking in the right direction. Now, it’s just a matter of channelizing your thoughts towards a fruitful objective. Do note that this first step was simply meant to shuffle your brain cells. And as soon as your brain cells get activated and you start getting these thoughts, you are ready to move into the second step of this technique.

  1. In the second step, you need to analyse your thought that occurred in the first step and then find the answer to it. In order to do that you should know the right approach in the respective three circumstances. The different approaches are –

a) No idea about any of your talents – You don’t know what’s your talent is? Well, trust me there is absolutely no problem in that because most of us start with this thought only. The only remedy available is to keep digging more and more inside your own self, till you are successful in identifying it. There is no other way out. As clearly mentioned in the above paragraphs that it’s only you who could identify your real talents, so go for it. What you are waiting for? Start doing it right now. List down all the things that you think you are talented in. And mind it talent has no barriers. One person could be talented in more than one thing. So don’t restrict yourself to any kind of boundaries. Just write down every possible thing that you think you are good at. Herewith, do note that there is a high possibility that what you think is a talent of yours, may just turn out to be one of your hobbies or likings. So you have to make sure that the talent that you identify duly fits in the definition of the “real talent” as mentioned at the start of this blog. And mind it, till the time you are successful in locating your “Real Talent”, you don’t have an option to stop. Keep going, no matter however long it may take you to identify that. And only when you are able to identify your real talent, you are ready to move on the third and final stage of this technique.

b) Not talented in any of the fields – Do you think that you are not talented in any of the fields? Trust me this thought is nothing but sheer crap. Do note that each one of us is talented in something or the other and it’s just a matter of time when we actually realize our talent. Hence, this thought is merely a negative force to pull you down from achieving your ultimate goal in life. It’s like the same situation which you encountered in the past, wherein you were working towards achieving something in your life and a negative thought that “You can’t achieve it” keeps hitting your mind, every now and then. The fact is that in all such situations you have to overcome this thought with self-confidence by countering it with a positive thought that “You are going to achieve it no matter what comes across”. Now the same approach is required to be applied for getting over the negative thought that “You are not talented in any of the fields”. You got to simply bypass this thought by reminding yourself, time and again, that “Everyone is talented and so are you”. When you have settled your mind with this positive thought, you will have to once again start thinking about your real talent as per the process mentioned in point number a) above.

c) Aware of your talent – Hurray! It’s great news that you are aware of your talent. Congratulations for this life changing realization. You might be fortunate enough to know your talent on the first go, without much effort. Or it may so happen that at the start of this process you have no idea about your talent or you might be thinking that you are not talented in any of the fields, but without fail the final outcome of the second step has to be the awareness of one’s talent. Do note that till you are aware of your real talent you can’t proceed towards the third and the final stage of this process. Once you are able to identify your talent, it’s the right time for you to move forward with confidence, towards the third and last step of this technique.

  1. The last and final step is actually not about identifying your real talent because you have already done that in the first two steps of this technique. Hence, the third step is all about pursuing your real talent. This step is an extremely important part of this technique because it will be an insult to your talent if you do nothing about it, even after identifying it. Do keep it in mind that only identifying your talent doesn’t matter, rather pursuing it is very important. And till you pursue your real talent and work towards honing your talent it will be of no use. At the same time, just because you are talented in something doesn’t mean you are best in it. You will not do justice to your talent till you practice it day in, day out and master the same. Hence, you have to “Identify your real talent and pursue it – Period”.

At last, I would like to mention that all of us need to step out of our comfort zone. We can’t just sit peacefully and waste our talent by feeling helpless. Life is not a rose bed and taking risk is a part and parcel of life. Each one of us came with a purpose in life and it’s only after we identify our real talent that we could actually progress towards achieving it. Above all, we have to identify and pursue our talent so that we can contribute our little bit for the benefit of our society, as well as, the entire world.

I hope this blog will help you to identify your real talents and you will definitely pursue it. I wish you all the very best and would definitely like to know about your real talents and your progress in pursuing it. Do remember that you have a bigger purpose in life and there is no other option available but to achieve it. Go for it guys…

God bless you all!

Stay in touch.

Peyush Jain

Posted in Common Man, Financial Risk, Frauds, Human Tendency, Management Lessons, Media, Personality, Privacy, Relationship, Security, Show Off, Slogging, Social Networking Platforms, Technology, Victim

Flaunting too much on social networking platforms? – Beware you are being watched

Are you obsessed with flaunting too much on social networking platforms? Do you enjoy sharing all the events happening in your personal life with the virtual world? Is everyone in your network always aware about your travelling plans? Do you feel proud in flashing with the online community, your event calendar, which comprises of all the forthcoming events that you are planning to attend? If your head nodded against any of the above questions then better beware because you are being watched.

At the outset, let me make it very clear that your social networking account is solely your property and it’s only you who have the right to decide that what and how much you want to reveal about yourself and your activities with the virtual world. I am no one to stop you from sharing your stuff with whoever you wish too. I very well know that it’s none of my business to interfere in your personal life. Hence, this blog is not meant to question your personal choice in any manner, rather it’s an attempt to throw some light on the risk involved with opening up too much on social networking platforms. I urge everyone to read this blog with an open mind and also educate others about the risk they carry with their social networking accounts.

No doubt there is an ocean of data available on the subjects pertaining to the dangers and precautions to be taken while dealing with the virtual world. Still, all of us tend to make mistakes every now and then and hence we need timely reminders to save us from any unfortunate event that might occur otherwise in our life. As such, I have tried to jot down three of the most common practical mistakes visible on social networking platforms which make us vulnerable to a lot of threatening incidences.

The three most common mistakes on social networking platforms are excessive sharing of –

  1. Personal Information – If you feel proud to share your personal life and most importantly your pictures every now and then revealing yourself in expensive attires, displaying the places you often visit, your workplace, your contact details, exposing the details about your family members, name of your kid’s school or any place they frequently visit, etcetera. Then better be cautious because you and your family members are prone to very high risk. The social networking platforms are being watched from every corner and who knows you might soon be hosting an uninvited guest knocking at your door. Sharing of excessive information might also lead to someone stalking you. So it’s better for you to keep a check on things you want to share with others so that you don’t risk your life, as well as, the life of your closed ones. Now next time before sharing too much of your personal information make sure that you at least have a Z+ security by your side to safeguard you from any kind of unwanted incidences happening in your life.
  1. Travel Plans – One of the biggest blunders being committed on social networking accounts is to share the travelling plans. I mean just imagine that you are leaving your home and you publish that information in front of the entire world. By this kind gesture of yours “especially towards the thieves” you not only open your gates for them to trespass your home with utmost ease but, at the same time, you also put the life of your loved ones back home, at stake. Just because you want to flaunt in front of the entire world that you are travelling to different locations on business, personal or vacation trips, you publish such critical information, which in itself is a sufficient data for a person with malicious intentions to take advantage of. Such casual posts of yours, act as the most vital information about your absence from the place of residence. Don’t forget that in this data mining age your account details could very well be churned up based on your past information to extract details such as the most likely time for your next vacation trip, etcetera. Now you can just imagine how safe you, your family members and your property back home is, after that post of yours. Isn’t it a suicidal attempt?
  1. Event Calendar – If you feel proud in flashing with the online community, your event calendar consisting of all the forthcoming events you are planning to attend in the near future, then it’s the right time for you to hear the danger bell ringing exclusively for you. No doubt you get that urge to exhibit in front of the entire world, the prestigious events (which others can’t afford to go) or even the social gatherings you are going to attend, but by this small act of yours, you simply give an opportunity to someone with malicious intentions to either stalk you or even trespass your place in your absence. Showcasing things to the outside world may be a matter of extreme pride for you, but do give it a thought that is your over flaunting attitude somehow making your life too prone to unwanted risk or what.

However, one could easily counter on this by replying that sharing their personal stuff is a means of being in touch with other people. If they wouldn’t be sharing all that, then such platforms would never have been a real success. If people like them don’t flaunt themselves on such platforms then how would others be able to pass their time? It’s only because of people like them who share the so-called interesting stuff that others get the opportunity to peek into their life and enjoy. To all this, I would simply like to say that we are extremely obliged to them for sharing their personal stuff in abundance and we also look forward to more and more “personal” stuff coming from them.

Now, it’s up to you whether you want to “Share Smartly or Simply Share”. The choice is yours after all life is yours. Further, if you think that sharing your details only with “Friends” or “Friends of Friends” is quite safe, then sooner or later this bubble of yours will get burst too, because when the social networking accounts of big personalities are easily being hacked then you can just imagine how safe your account is.

As rightly said by Mr. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “Precaution is better than cure”, so let us all be cautious before any unfortunate event happens with anyone of us because of our excessive information sharing attitude. Everything has a positive and a negative side attached to it and it’s for us to decide and take advantage of the positive side, while not getting carried away by the negative side. Stay safe and do take a very good care of yourself and everyone around you. Be guided and share the information with others too. Act smart and make use of the social networking platforms wisely.

Be in touch.

God Bless!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Belief, Depression, Hope, Human Tendency, Inspiration, Life, Management Lessons, Meditation, Motivation, Personality, Talent

Are you hunting for some motivation?

By any chance are you hunting for some motivation in the outside world? Thinking to get inspired from success stories of other persons? Wandering in search of that very stimulus which will ignite your life? Waiting for someone/something to pull you up from your current downtrodden situation? Seeking for some positive spark in your life? Hoping that one fine day you will get shaken up by the inspirational boosters and eventually your goals will be achieved? If the answer to any of these questions is in affirmative, then, fortunately, you have landed at the right place. In this blog let us try to locate the source of ‘real and everlasting’ motivation.

At the outset, I would like to comfort you by sharing the fact that if you are a motivation seeker then nothing to worry about because you are not sailing all alone in the boat. Indeed we all are hopping in the hunt for motivation, sometimes or the other. And, in fact, we always look outside for that dose of motivation. But did you ever think that is this exercise fruitful or not? Do we really get inspired by the outside world? And most importantly does this outside motivation have an everlasting impact on us or not?

We read inspiring stories, hear motivational audio, view the life changing videos, all in all, we go through every kind of motivational material that is accessible to us. The sole aim behind all this is to get inspired and thereby change our life into yet another success story. However, don’t you think that all this ultimately turns out to be a momentary motivation only? The impact of which lasts only for a few minutes, hours or maybe for a few days, and in reality, it actually fails to motivate us in the long run.

Herewith, let me make it very clear that I am not against any kind of motivational stuff; in fact, they are a great source of learning. However, my whole point is that all these motivational posts, quotes, stories, audio-video, etcetera, are good enough to boost our morale in that very moment or maybe for some more time, but they are not sufficient enough to leave an everlasting impact on our life. Hence, it’s a high time for us to diagnose the impact of outside motivation on our life. And if we find out that we are not getting much of the needed help from these momentary motivations, then we need to question ourselves that what is the alternative available for us to get motivated in the real sense?

Well, the answer to this life changing question is that we need to “Look within for inspiration”. It’s our own life story and it’s comparable to no one else’s life. Everyone has different struggles and a different way of tackling and overcoming them. We need to write our own success story and for that, we have to look within our own self for finding inspiration. There is no argument in the fact that we can take learning’s from other’s life and even get motivated from them. But the hard-core reality is that all these momentary motivations will eventually wipe-off, as soon as, the memory of that motivational thing is overpowered with other important or not-so-important things going on in our life. Hence, it’s only the motivation that emerges from within us, which is going to have an everlasting impact in our life and it is indeed the real motivation.

You may be down, you might have lost all the hopes, you are no more interested in your life, but do remember, that you are the same person who once used to crawl and then “on your own” learned to walk, as well as, run miles and miles. When on your own you can learn how to walk, even at the age when you have no life experiences, then what else could stop you from walking or running in the journey of your life?

Now every time you get disheartened, do remember that you need to get back to your inner-self and remind yourself about all those past incidences of your life in which you stood firmly against all the odds and finally came out as a winner to achieve your goals. And yes, there is no one on earth who has not achieved anything in their life. The achievements could be as small as learning to ride a vehicle, passing an exam, winning or even participating in a game and the list goes on and on. So the excuse that “I don’t have any achievements in my life” is a sheer crap. Hence, there is no point in hiding behind this excuse. So yes, “If you are hunting for some motivation, then do look within for inspiration”. Only then you will get motivated in a ‘real and an everlasting’ sense.

I do hope that now onwards you will find inspiration from within your own self and there will be a lot many success stories to share and learn from. I wish you all a very happy, motivated and a prosperous life.

Be in touch.

God Bless!

Peyush Jain