“Every little expectation eventually kills.” Whether you believe it or not, it’s a fact and not an exaggerated statement. Killing doesn’t necessarily mean taking away one’s life; it also means killing the happiness and along with it killing the peace. In the journey of life, each one of us has to undergo situations where nothing goes our way or as we ‘expect’ it to be. As and when this happens, we tend to kill the peace of our mind.
Let us understand this with a simple example, as a child, when we expect to own a toy but somehow could not get it, we get disappointed, irritated and we start crying i.e. the same heart which was dancing with joy in anticipation of getting a new toy, instantly sinks into the state of sadness, merely with the thought of our expectations not being met. I am sure this happened with each one of us and it will continue to happen this way, in some form or the other.
Now, in the above example, just replace the toy with something from your wish-list and imagine the outcome of expectations not getting met, in the day-to-day life. Isn’t it scary even to imagine anything of that sort? Simply, try to give it a thought that when visualizing the outcome in itself results into goosebumps, what will be our condition when, all of a sudden, we encounter such situations in reality and that too of a larger impact.
We are so engrossed in our expectations that we don’t even realize that unconsciously we are expecting something or the other every single moment. We expect our loved ones to be around us always but, as a matter of fact, every single one of them including ourselves shall depart, as and when our time arrives. Over the time, we have programmed ourselves in such a way that we always expect the results to be in our favour. Unfortunately, that’s not how things work in life.
With expectations, we actually create an illusionary world and feel comfortable staying in it, until the bubble is burst. But the irony is that our creativity of creating this illusionary world never actually ends. We keep on expecting and then wait for another bubble to burst, and then another, and another. This goes, on and on. Do you even think that such complicated way of living our life will ever lead to a peaceful state of mind?
Nevertheless, to forego expectations doesn’t mean to leave everything on fate and sit with folded hands. It rather means that – Give your best and leave the rest. Just play your part wholeheartedly, enjoying every single moment, learning from the mistakes and accepting the outcome with open mind, heart, and arms. If we do this, then trust me the peace shall always stay intact, irrespective of the situations and the outcome. However, this isn’t an easy task, as it calls for a lot of perseverance.
Hence, every little expectation eventually does kills. So, the choice is ours, either we have to stop expecting or else be ready to bear the consequences every single time our expectations are not met. Kill the Expectations before the Expectations kill you. I hope (not expect) that we all work towards an expectation-free life.
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