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Divorce – A permanent dissolution of any relationship

As per the dictionary meaning, ‘Divorce’ means – the legal dissolution of a marriage (Reference: Word Web). Although, divorce is commonly associated with the dissolution of a marriage, while in literal terms, divorce means to part away, cease or break association with someone. So, if we consider divorce on a larger perspective then we can very well say that “Divorce stands for permanent dissolution of any relationship”. In simple terms, whenever any relation ceases to exist ‘permanently’ then it’s a divorce, irrespective of the name of the relation, or irrespective of any legal bounding associated with it or not. Note: Divorce in this blog refers to the cessation of any kind of relation and not marriage alone.

If we notice around us, then we will find that divorce takes place, every now and then, in almost all the relationships to name with, be it a parent-child, husband-wife, siblings, friends, relatives, neighbours, owner-pet, employee-organisation and the list goes, on and on. Even though we as a society, has attached the tag of divorce only with the marriage, but the hard-core reality is that divorce takes place in every kind of relationship.

Yes, none of the relation is unaffected by the virus of divorce. Why I address divorce as a virus is because there is a peculiar thing associated with it. As mentioned in the definition above Divorce is a Permanent Dissolution of any relationship. So, once the divorce is taken in any relation, there is hardly any chance left to get back into that particular relationship, once again in future. It’s equivalent to a situation where all the entry doors get closed and there is no looking back, post-exit.

I do agree that at times divorce is the necessity and the only remedy left when some of the relations reach to a severe point, where it is suffocating for both the parties involved to carry on any further. If a relation becomes a hindrance to our happiness or God forbid a threat to our life, then it is highly advisable and wise enough to walk out of that relationship. There is seriously no point in stretching such relations, just for the sake of carrying it on. However, we should remember it that divorce should always be the last option in our list and the decision to permanently walk out of any relationship should never be an impulsive one, rather it should be taken only with a peaceful mind, considering that no other way out is feasible anymore.

Most of us do take temporary breaks in our relationships when we kind of find it hard to match our wavelength with the other person involved in that relation. But, that is “only for the time being” till we are able to tune our frequencies back on the same radar, or else, we agree to disagree on our differences. But, as far as, divorce is concerned, it’s a permanent break and it may so happen that throughout their life span the divorced souls will never ever get a chance to see each other again, forget about communicating with each other. Sounds harsh, right? Well, yes, divorce (most of the times) is like that only, and, as a matter of fact, it’s indeed too painful to get out of any relationship.

Although not all divorces results in a “not being in touch henceforth” type of a relation, because we also witness cases around us, wherein people parts away with mutual consent and still remain in touch, with no hard feelings for each other in their hearts. I strongly advocate that, if at all, it is essential to take divorce from any relation then it should be in this manner only, which could be categorised as kind of “Happy Divorce”. But unfortunately, such cases are meagre in number.

Guys, it’s my earnest request that if there is even a slight hope left to bring the relationship back on the right track, then do keep your ego aside, and try once again, wholeheartedly, to save that beautiful relationship, before it gets into the plague of divorce. I wish that all of you have abundant happiness and strong bonds in each and every relationship of yours.

God bless you all.

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Peyush Jain