In our day to day life, each one of us may get hurt, as well as, knowingly or unknowingly, may hurt others by any of our acts. However, out of our ego, we don’t tend to forgive others, forget about seeking forgiveness from others. No doubt it takes a lot of courage to seek forgiveness or for that matter to forgive others. As such, it is rightly said that “Kshama Virasya Bhushanam”, which means “Forgiveness adorns the Brave”.
On the occasion of Samvatsari (the last day of Paryushana – a Jain festival) and Kshamavani (Forgiveness) Day, there is a custom in the Jain religion, wherein with folded hands, the Jain followers seek forgiveness from every single soul who felt bad or got hurt, knowingly or unknowingly, due to any of their actions/deeds/words, etcetera. They seek forgiveness by saying Micchami Dukkadam to all the living beings. Micchami Dukkadam is a Prakrit phrase, wherein Micchami means to be fruitless (forgiven) and Dukkadam (Dushkrut) means bad deeds. Micchami Dukkadam means ‘to be forgiven’ or ‘may all the evil that has been done be forgiven’.
What could be more beautiful than to make forgiveness a part of our life? Just imagine if there are no grudges in anyone’s heart then how beautiful this world will be, to live in. Behind almost all the evils happening around us, there is somewhere an element of a lack of forgiveness in the heart of those involved in such acts. We, the living beings, spent our entire life carrying a lot of grudges against others. But do we even realize that all these grudges are somewhere or the other responsible for all the unhappiness that surrounds us? Give it a thought, that how much lighter we will feel if we get away with all those grudges that occupy the majority of our memory space. To achieve such a state all that is required is just an “attitude of forgiveness”. Isn’t it worth giving a try at least?
I would like to quote here a recent example which depicts what greatness is all about and, at the same time, how those who claim to be the “contractors of religion”, provoke others “in the name of religion” to get involved in things that are specifically barred by the religion. In a recent controversy, some celebrity/politician defamed and tweeted ill against a renowned Jain Saint. On the one hand, the renowned Jain Saint showed his greatness by forgiving, “on his own”, the people behind those crap thoughts, who tried to throw garbage on him. While, on the other hand, one of the contractors of religion was heard stating that it will be cowardice on the part of the entire Jain community if they forgive such acts, as well as, the person who spoke ill against the Jain Saint.
Hats off to all those people who preach such kind of provoking thoughts and still claim themselves to be a preacher of Jainism! No, I am not advocating here with about tolerating nuisances, at all. What I mean to say is that isn’t it enough to peacefully protest and register our complaints against the culprits, in all such cases, and wait for the law enforcement agencies to take necessary actions against them, rather than provoking the innocent masses to unnecessarily get aggressive? Any stupid action in such cases not only shifts the focus from the main issue, but it also defames the religion at large, just because of such provoking statements made by a few persons, who fail to think about the repercussions of their statements.
I do hope that the advocates of non-forgiveness and for that matter banning things do know that Lord Mahaveera never forced anyone to follow the path or the preaching of Jainism. Do remember that Jainism is all about Non-Violence and Forgiveness. Jainism is not about forcing one’s thoughts on others. Jainism is more than a religion, it’s a thought that evoked and developed over time through introspection and learning. Hearts can be won by requesting and enlightening but not by force.
At last, with folded hands, I seek forgiveness from every single soul who felt bad or got hurt, knowingly or unknowingly, due to any of my actions/deeds/words, etcetera. I would like to end this blog with the very thought that let’s forget all the bad memories and start a new relationship.