People often curse, blame, or get disappointed over someone for not standing or at least showing support towards them. To be very frank, at times, I too have been accused by my closed ones for not taking a stand in their favour. I am sure many of you might as well have found yourself trapped in such a situation. We might have genuine reasons not to support others “for their own good” but who lends an ear amidst the outpour of emotions, right?
Such an attitude of people somehow makes me think that to get support from others is considered to be a birthright by them. While they themselves intend to comfortably spend their life by using everyone else as their crutches. Forgive me, if I sound harsh but the reality is that these people are nothing but a coward in the real sense. They want others to speak on their behalf, while, they observe as a mute-spectator, maintaining their image of a sweet human being.
My only question to all such persons is that why should anyone care to stand for you if you yourself don’t have the courage to stand for your rights? The following lines extracted from my other blog – “Navratri – Time to worship a Goddess, in real sense” aptly fits in here – “Sympathies are for the ones who fight for their right, not for the ones who choose to live their life getting submerged in the quicksand of injustice.”
My advice to every such person is to stop looking for help and have the guts to stand for your own sake first. How could you even think that others will show any interest in your life when you yourself lack the spirit to fight for your rights? At least for your own good, don’t pass on the steering wheel of your life into someone else’s hands because by doing so, neither the journey will be yours, nor you will have the autonomy to lead your life. At the most, you will be a puppet in the hands of others.
Every time you get the thought that no one stands for you, do remember that your life is no one else’s responsibility. Instead of cursing them, we should actually be thankful to each and every such person who didn’t stand for us, as it’s only because of them that we learned to stand for ourselves. How else do you think we even got the courage to fight the storms in our life? If every time we found support from others, do you even think that we would be able to put a step forward on our own, forget about travelling the miles in our journey of life?
Herewith, let me make it very clear that I am not discarding the importance of a support system in our life altogether. I know that every living being needs support to survive. However, my only point is that first of all, we have to make that effort at our end and only then we are in a position to earn that support we require. Do note that once you show the courage to stand for your rights, sooner or later, the world will also back you in your deeds.
As far as I am concerned, I wouldn’t take a stand for you if you yourself don’t show the courage to face the situation on your own. I wouldn’t stand for you if I think that you still can take the blows by yourself and survive, making you a stronger person every time. I would never support you if doing so will make you a weaker person in the long run. This is the only way I know and I shall always stand for you, only in this way.
At last, it’s my earnest request to all of you that please stand for yourself rather than expecting others to stand for you. As rightly conveyed by Mr. Muhammed Iqbal in these beautiful and meaningful lines – “Khudi ko kar buland itna, ke har taqdeer se pehley, khuda bandey se khud poochey, bata teri raza kya hai”. (“Elevate yourself so high that even God, before issuing every decree of destiny, should ask you: Tell me, what is your intent?”)
I wish that may the Almighty give good sense to each one of us.
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