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16th December 2012 – The Night that never saw the Dawn – Part 3

Whenever we come across some shocking incident it all of a sudden sends shivers up and down our spine. The cruel incident of 16th December 2012 was certainly one of them. Trust me every time the heading of this blog crosses my vision, it always forces me to think that how aptly it suits in today’s time as well. Yes, the dark night of 16th December 2012 never saw the Dawn.

Ah! India took a sigh of relief considering that finally justice has been achieved in the ‘Nirbhaya’ gang rape case. Everyone around seems to be happy, the courtroom is echoing with the sound of claps, lot of wishes are getting circulated on different platforms because of the very reason that on dated 05th May 2017, the Honourable Supreme court upheld the death sentence passed by the High Court as well as the Lower Court in the said case. A week has passed from that day of judicial pronouncement and almost all the emotional outburst has subsided, so it’s the right time for us to analyse whether Justice is actually achieved in this case or not?

As rightly quoted by Mr. William E. Gladstone “Justice delayed is Justice denied”. Sorry to say, but “Justice has already been denied in the present case” and still we are very proudly celebrating the judicial pronouncement. Mind it this is the situation when the case was taken up in the fast-track court. Now, we can just imagine the fate of all other judicial cases pending before the Honourable courts in our country for years and years. The number of pending cases in the court of law is only going to aggravate the matter and in turn, will leave an impression in the mind of the culprits that they have a free hand to do anything as per their wish.

The time lag in our judicial proceedings could be understood by the very fact that it took almost 9 months to the lower court, 6 months to the Honourable Delhi High Court and 38 long months to the Honourable Supreme Court to pronounce the judgement in the Nirbhaya case. And the culprits still have 3 more chances left to appeal i.e. 1) Reconsideration Petition – A Reconsideration Petition with the Honourable Supreme Court. 2) Curative Petition – If no relief is granted in the Reconsideration Petition then a Curative Petition could be filed 3) Mercy Petition – If no relief is granted against the death sentence in the Curative Petition as well then a Mercy Petition could be filed with the Honourable President of India. (Reference: News article published on dated 06th May 2017 in Dainik Bhaskar, the Hindi Daily Newspaper).

Shame on us that even after such a shocking incidence, which caught the eyes of the world media, we not only missed an opportunity to take strong steps in the area of woman safety but also failed drastically in setting up an example in front of the entire world with a speedy judicial proceeding in such a brutal case. And still, we want to brag about achieving justice in the present case? The hard-core reality is that the victim died a painful death long back, while the culprits still have 3 more options left to prove their innocence even after almost 4½ long years have passed since that incident first took place.

This case truly shows a mirror to our society, and at the same time, unmasks the face of the judicial system in our country. What an irony that in the world’s largest democratic nation, the culprits in a criminal case of this magnitude couldn’t be punished even after almost 4½ long years have passed. We can no more continue to play the game of pointing fingers towards others; rather we as a society have to accept our collective responsibility for such a poor condition of the law and order, as well as, the judicial system in our country.

Herewith, I would like to quote the following paragraph extracted from the second part of this Blog “16th December 2012 – The Night that never saw the Dawn” – Part 2 – Yes, humanity indeed gets killed every time such inhuman act occurs. But, the culprits are not alone to be held responsible for this killing of humanity, rather we, as a society, are equally responsible for all such inhuman acts happening around us. It’s a high time we question ourselves that what learning we took from the past incidents and what corrective measures we took to ensure that no such incidents happen with anyone again. How long will it take for us to realize that today it may have happened with a stranger, but tomorrow it could happen to anyone of us or our family members? Are we waiting for that day when we will be the victim?

Did we actually take any learning from such brutal rape case? NO, the growing graph of rape cases with every passing ‘hour’ clearly shows the condition of law and order in our country. It also depicts the mindset of our society. I would not be wrong in saying that it’s a male dominating society wherein the females of “any age” are considered as a product to satisfy the never-ending lust of inhuman males.

I would like to end this blog with the very hope that we as a society and nation wake up soon. It’s a high time we work collectively towards saving humanity. If we still don’t get shaken up then we should better be ready to witness more of Nirbhaya’s getting raped every now and then around us. It’s an earnest request to every woman, that please stay safe, and at the same time, I urge every man to please give the much-deserved respect to the women and safeguard them from such inhuman who just consider them as a product of flesh and bones to satisfy their lust.

I wish the Almighty give good sense to each one of us.

God Bless!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Fun, Human Tendency, Humour, Inspiration, Motivation, Personality, Sarcasm, Sarcastic, Slogging

I am Judgemental – Are You too?

Today, I am here to accept and reveal the fact that I am Judgemental (as if anyone cares). Okay, I accept that I am mental too, but that’s not the point of discussion in this blog, so you better concentrate on the core issue right now, instead of forcing me to reveal all my unique characteristics here. You can accuse me as much as you want but that’s still not going to change the fact, even a bit. I am Judgemental and I am going to stay like that forever.

Sorry to disappoint you, but I am not ashamed in accepting the fact that I am Judgemental. On the contrary, I feel proud of “Being Judgemental”. Hey, what did you just murmur? You think it’s a matter of shame for me? Trust me, after reading this blog, you yourself are going to be desperate enough to “Be Judgemental” [Shhh! This is a trap to make you read my blog (*Winks*)].

To start with, let us refer a dictionary to check and understand what does the word ‘Judgemental’ actually mean? Out of the 7 definitions available, I think the one that most appropriately defines the word Judgemental is “The capacity to assess situations or circumstances shrewdly and to draw sound conclusions”. [Reference: Word Web Dictionary, the free version (I am miser too)].

Now let us try to dissect and understand the essence of this definition.

  • The capacity to assess situations or circumstances” – The definition starts with these words, which actually refers to the potentiality of someone to evaluate situations or circumstances. These carefully chosen words indicate towards a person who possesses the skill to appraise situations/circumstances/individuals that come across her/him.
  • Shrewdly” – Then comes the word shrewdly in the definition. The word Shrewd herewith means “Marked by practical hard-headed intelligence”. Practical hard-headed means that the level of intelligence needs to be guided by practical experience and observation rather than theory. [Reference: Word Web Dictionary].
  • And to draw sound conclusions” – The definition ends with these words, which in fact means that the ultimate aim towards assessing anything is to draw sound conclusions. A sound conclusion may signify an outcome which is good enough or which can be logically validated. These words represent that Judgemental Person’s always aspire to achieve sound results by their judgements.

Hence, from the above-mentioned definition, we can conclude that “A Judgemental person signifies someone who is smart and capable enough to evaluate situations/circumstances/individuals, with a practically hard-headed intelligence, in order to draw sound conclusions”. Ahem! Doesn’t the word “Judgemental” or “Being Judgemental” sound good all of a sudden? And till now you were unnecessarily feeling bad over someone calling or rather accusing you of “Being Judgemental”.

I am sure after reading and most importantly ‘understanding’ the above definition, the majority of the readers will agree with me that they are Judgemental and there is nothing wrong in “Being Judgemental”. (See I am again Judgemental to think that majority of the readers are smart enough). In fact “Being Judgemental” is the best trait one can and should possess. So don’t you all think that you are smart enough to possess this quality of “Being Judgemental”?

In case you still have some doubts left, then also nothing to worry about because I am not going to leave you in the middle of nowhere and vanish just like that. In the following paragraphs, I will try to explain with the logic that how and why “Being Judgemental” is extremely important for all of us (just like intake of oxygen).

Do you take any decision based on your Gut Feelings? Did you ever give it a thought that how your gut feelings actually work? Let me tell you that “Gut feelings work only when we are Judgemental about a situation/circumstance/individual”. Hence, the prerequisite for Gut Feelings is “Being Judgemental”. If you are not Judgemental in assessing a situation or a person well in advance, then do you even think that it will be possible for you to take any decision based on your gut feelings?

All those who encounter situations wherein they have to make choices based on their gut feelings are in a far better position to understand this point. Say, for example, you are all alone on a lonely road, at some odd hour of the day, and you desperately need help from someone to drop you home. Now in this situation, just think that will you blindly take help from the very first person who arrives on that lonely road or will you activate your gut feelings to decide from whom you need to take help, out of all those persons who come forward to offer you help? Without fail you have to be Judgemental in this situation so that you can save yourself from an alarming situation. Hence, knowingly or unknowingly we all are Judgemental.

Irrespective of all the above positive sides about “Being Judgemental”, let me warn you that there is a negative side attached to it as well. The only problem with “Being Judgemental” arises when we are not ready to accept the ‘reality’ over our judgement. I mean a lot many times our judgement will turn out to be wrong (For your information, my ratio of Judgement turning out to be wrong is 100%).

In all such situations when our judgement goes wrong, what is required from our end is to show some maturity and accept the fact that we are humans, and hence, we can go wrong at times in judging the people or the output of any circumstance/situation. Sticking to our Judgement, even after it turns out to be wrong, is simply foolishness on our part. Instead, it will be better on our part to accept the reality and take learning from it, so that we can be a better Judge the next time. If we can win over this shortcoming of ours then trust me “Being Judgemental” is a characteristic which everyone should possess and in fact feel proud about it.

I hope that it is very much clear now that there goes a lot of thought process in “Being Judgemental”. So each one of you should be extremely proud for “Being Judgemental” and pat your back for owning such a good quality (*Collars Up*). All those who still have any doubts on this subject matter are requested to read this blog again and again, till they get assured about the goodness of this characteristic.

The next time anyone accuses you of “Being Judgemental”, do thank him/her/it (‘it’ because even robots can accuse us in this digital age). And don’t you dare forget to thank me in your mind on every such occasion, else I am going to Judge you as “Being Ungrateful” (*Coughs*).

God Bless you all! Stay in touch.

Peyush Jain

Posted in Common Man, Consumer, Democracy, Doctor, Government, Health, Hindustan, Human Tendency, India, Management Lessons, Patient, Politics, Security, Slogging, Strike, System, Victim, Violence

Strike a day keeps the Doctor away

It’s said that “An apple a day keeps the Doctor away” but it seems that in the present scenario a new proverb best suits in i.e. “Strike a day keeps the Doctor away”. To testify this, you just need to look around and you will realize that every now and then, there is news about some violent act between doctors and relatives of the patients in some part of the country. The end result of all such violent acts is that the doctors go on a strike when their basic demand for safety is not being heard by the responsible authorities and every time the common man is left to suffer in absence of the availability of doctors in hospitals for treatment.

After all such incidences the doctors unanimously complaints that they are being abused and assaulted by the relatives of the patients, while, on the contrary, the relatives of the patients accuses the doctors of their careless approach in treating the patients. This tension is building up since long and in the recent time, it has taken a more violent form. Now, we as a society have to decide whether we intend to continue with this sore relationship between the doctors and the patients and be a dumb spectator or else do we aim to bring an end to all this by implementing some drastic measures? So let us try to discuss this serious issue in this blog and find out the ultimate solution to this problem.

Doctors are not God but they are the one who cures us and saves our life. I have never seen God, but I am sure if the Almighty is present then two of the most important activities of their Key Results Area (KRA) would be to cure us of all the ailments and save our life. Hence, it would not be wrong on my part to say that “Even though Doctors are not God, but their act is Godly”. Now, with this serious responsibility of Godly Act, accompanies a lot of expectations “from and towards” a Doctor.

In a doctor’s profession, there is no room for any kind of mistakes. Hence, we can just imagine how cautious doctors need to be while dealing with each and every single patient of theirs. Ever tried to visualize that what will be our anxiety level if we have to work in our respective professions, with such thoughts running at the back of our mind 24X7? Don’t you think that most of us will panic or try to run away from such situation? But the doctor’s can’t afford to and neither do so, they are right there fighting with their anxieties and fatigue day in, day out.

Yet, doctors are not machines, they are indeed humans and chances of “unintentional mistakes” are always likely to happen. Many a time, unlike others, doctors don’t even get a second chance to rectify their unintentional mistakes. The doctors are in fact always walking on burning embers. In spite of all these hardships faced at their end what they get in return? Mind it; herewith I am only talking about the honest and committed doctors. Isn’t it expected from each one of us to at least show some courtesy and give them the much-deserved respect? Is it too much to ask for? Forget about showing respect, some of us don’t even think twice before pointing the finger towards the honest and committed doctors as well? Is this the way a civilized society should behave?

Obviously, one can very well counter that it is their duty and the doctors are being paid for their job and that they are not doing any kind of social service. But trust me, to be an honest and committed doctor it takes more than simply performing the set KRAs. Most of the time these doctors have to go out-of-the-way and undertake tasks which are over and above the so-called KRAs. Now, what inspires them to do so? Believe me, it has nothing to do with earning money but the very thought of helping the patients to recover and get well soon ignites the soul of these honest and committed doctors.

Having said all the above things, we still can’t discard the presence of corrupt and careless doctors in our system altogether. And for that matter, there are corrupt and careless professionals in every field. But this doesn’t mean that we have the right to abuse or assault any doctor when we are not satisfied with their work. Whatever may be the circumstances, no one has the right to take law in their hand. Instead, if we have any complaint against any person then we should register the same with the designated authority, rather than be opting for violent means to let our voice heard.

However, time and again, we hear and witness incidences where either the doctors are being abused and assaulted for not performing their duties diligently or else the patient’s relatives complain about being ill-treated/careless approach by/of the doctors. Now a very valid question strike our mind that should this be the way to treat someone whom we consider next to God, and, at the same time, is such behaviour expected from highly educated professionals like doctors?

The reality is that fault is at both the ends. On one hand, we as a society are responsible for not condemning such violent behaviour of the relatives of the patients or for not standing against the mob that is abusing and assaulting the doctors. On the other hand, the few corrupt and careless doctors are actually bringing disgrace on the name of the entire medical fraternity and it is because of them, that at times, even the innocent doctors are being accused and assaulted for something which they were not involved in or for something that was not in their hands. Similarly, many times, it is seen that just because of the careless approach of some of the doctors, patients have to suffer a lot and also there are cases reported where the patients have even lost their life due to this careless behaviour of the doctors.

So what is the resort available for the innocent doctors against such violent acts? Normally in response to such assaults, the doctors often go on strike when their demand to provide adequate security at the workplace is not heard by the responsible authorities, as well as, the government. But is strike the only mean to get their demands heard and met? And the big question is that are strikes justifiable at all, more importantly in fields like medical which affects the life of living beings?

Similarly, who should the patient and their relatives look upon, when a corrupt or careless doctor doesn’t perform their duty diligently? Often, it is seen that the pain-stressed relatives of patients who are expecting immediate response lose their temper because no one is available to attend the patient or answer their queries and eventually the situation gets out of control.

Before we dig into any kind of solution to solve this issue, one thing should be made extremely clear that irrespective of the circumstances, no one has the right to take law in their hand, be it the doctors or be it the patients and their relatives. But does it mean that we are helpless and could not devise a system which keeps mobs out of the workplace and, at the same time, ensures that all those who are responsible performs their duty diligently?

It’s a high time we need a onetime solution to control such chaotic situation occurring every now and then on the hospital premises. If we are not able to control it now, then this situation is definitely going to aggravate in the near future and in turn, it’s surely going to widen the gap between the doctors and the patients and thereby resulting in a sour relationship. All this is ultimately going to affect the treatment of the patients.

Solution – As a layman, what I think is that to control all such issues a mechanism should be developed which results in a win-win situation for both the parties. I suggest the following measures for controlling such unwanted chaotic situation at a place like a hospital, which should be peaceful all the times –

  1. First of all, surveillance and security should be mandatorily available at each hospital premises, without fail. This will help the doctors in treating the patients without being scared of getting abused or assaulted by anyone. This will further ensure that the situation remains under control all the time and in case anyone tries to take law in their hand then such persons are identified with ease and are punished for their acts. This will not only control the situation but also help in creating a “fear of being watched” in the minds of all those who even think of taking law in their hand.
  1. Secondly, a system should be in place which keeps the track of every single activity from the time a patient arrives in the hospital premises i.e. enters the hospital. Do note that this tracking should start once the patient arrives in the hospital i.e. even before the admission of the patient. This will automatically help in resolving some of the major issues raised by the patients and their relatives i.e. the patient was not attended on time or the doctors were not available or were careless in their approach towards treating the patient.

These are very basic solutions and wouldn’t take much time to implement. The only thing that is required is the right intention and willingness on the part of the responsible authorities to resolve this chronic issue. Sooner the better they realize the importance of resolving this issue and take right decisions in this regard. Do note that without bringing some drastic changes in the system this tension is not going to ease up, rather it is going to aggravate with each passing day. So it is my earnest request to the responsible authorities that in the larger interest of the medical fraternity, as well as, the common men they should take the desired steps at the earliest.

I hope that the responsible authorities take this issue very seriously and also take actions to ensure that no such situation occurs in the future. I urge everyone to behave in a civilized manner and never take law in their hands. If you think that someone has deliberately caused harm to you or to someone else then you should register your complaint on the right platform with the designated authority, rather than getting into violence mode. At the same time, I would like to request every doctor that please perform your duty with utmost dedication and keep up the good work you all are known for. Let the doctors do their Godly Act in a peaceful condition and let the society be benefitted from the honest and committed doctors in the right way.

God Bless you all!

Stay in touch.

Peyush Jain

Posted in Belief, Equality, Human Tendency, Inspiration, Life, Motivation, Past, Personality, Slogging, Survivor, Talent, Victim

Stop playing the Victim Card – Will you?

If you want to achieve something remarkable in life than work really hard towards it and simply let your work speak. The world should recognize you by your work and nothing else. Let your work be evaluated solely based on your performance rather than your unfortunate past. You may have been a victim of any of the circumstances that you encountered during the journey of your life, but don’t ever try to cash on your past or for that reason let anyone else take advantage of the same.

Nowadays, if we look around, then we will realize that present marketing world likes to cash a lot on the victim card. Just watch any of the reality shows being telecast on Television/Internet and you will come to know that how the victim card is being overly used in the marketing world. And this is not only restricted to the reel world, but the real world is equally infected with such kind of publicity tactics, wherein someone’s unfortunate past is used as a means to publicize their work.

I do agree that in spite of being a victim, you came out as a winner or a survivor. And for that reason, your life is definitely a motivation for millions of us and indeed we do respect your courage and attitude. But still, it doesn’t mean that your work should always have a layer of your unfortunate past, for it to get noticed. Your personality and your good work are enough a reason for the world to recognize your talent. So just stop playing the victim card, every now and then.

On the one hand, you don’t want the sympathies of others, while, on the other hand, when it comes to marketing your work, you don’t even hesitate for a second before playing your victim card. Isn’t this a sheer case of double standards? Isn’t all such acts equivalent to cheap publicity? If you believe that you have worked really hard then do note that you certainly don’t need such emotional marketing strategies to grab the attention of others.

Do mind that true professionals will never let anything else supersede their work. Did you ever see a successful person talking about their difficult past, about their struggles or about the unfortunate events of their life, every time before showcasing their work or their talent? No, they don’t talk about all such things before walking out in the playground; rather they just let their bat hit the home run. But yes, they do talk about all these things in their autobiography, in motivational speeches or when they are asked about it. And that is how it should be like.

I do hope that henceforth we will maintain our dignity and not play the victim card just for seeking attention. I mean most of us in order to achieve something in our life have to pass all the tests that life throws towards us. So everyone deserves their work to be treated and evaluated at par, rather than someone getting a biased decision based on their emotional appeals. Let the good work win the race.

I wish that the Almighty give enough strength to each one of us for overcoming all the odds in our life and grant us with good sense. Do take a very good care of yourself and stay safe always.

Be in touch.

God Bless you all!

Peyush Jain

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The Martyr’s soul will indeed be Proud

Miss Gurmehar Kaur, a 20-year-old student of Delhi University, is being trolled and threatened for opposing one of the acts of Akhil Bharatiya Vidyarthi Parishad (ABVP). She basically hails from Jalandhar, India and was a part of the campaign run against ABVP on social media platform. Herewith, please be noted that it is being alleged that the members of ABVP were involved in the violence that took place on dated 22nd February 2017 in the campus of Ramjas College, New Delhi. Now it’s for the authorities and the investigation agencies to investigate and reveal the names of all those who were involved in that violent act.

However, it seems that as a “customary act” once again the attention has been deliberately shifted from the main issue to the opposition of that very issue. So, before reaching to any conclusion, it will be prudent for us to know that what this girl was actually opposing. Was her stand in favour of any Anti-Nation activity? Was she opposing any kind of legal activity? Above all what exactly she wanted to convey? And to find the answer to all such questions, we will have to go through the post of Gurmehar Kaur. If anyone with sane mind looks at her post, they could easily figure it out that she was simply opposing any kind of violence in the college. Further, to voice her stand against violence this brave girl openly dared ABVP that she is not afraid of them.

Now, I seriously fail to understand that what is the mistake of this girl in raising her voice against a serious issue? In a country whose “Father of the Nation” was himself against any kind of violence is it wrong on the part of a Martyr’s daughter to raise her voice against violence? Nowadays, how easy it is to pronounce anything as an Anti-Nation activity. If someone raises their voice against any kind of injustice, they are held as Anti-Nation. What kind of democracy is this where one who speaks against violence has to leave the city and those who were actually involved in that violence are still roaming freely in that very city?

Shame on us that in the heat of opposing someone we can fall to such a low-level, that we don’t even hesitate in threatening people from raping them. What kind of society is this where the educated youths are indulging in violence and still they get support in the name of Patriotism? However valid our point may be but who on earth gave us the right to take law in our hands? A democratic nation should have a zero tolerance policy against any kind of violence. Only then we can make our country a safe place to live in.

Surprisingly, the tech savvy Central Government always keeps mum whenever such incidences take place, especially in which people related to their political party are involved. While, at all the other time, the Central Government’s ministers including our Pradhan Sevak are super active on social media platforms. Why can’t the Central Government take a strong stand against any kind of violence and come out openly to oppose all those who were involved in such kind of acts? I hope they know it that they are a People’s Government, not a Party Specific Government.

A Central Minister on this incidence commented that “The Martyr’s soul must be crying”. Mr. Minister, it’s not the martyr’s soul, rather we should be the one who should be crying on such a treatment with a martyr’s family in our country. It is the same nation to which Late Captain Mandeep Singh gave preference over his family or any other thing. It is the same nation for which he gave away his life in the 1999 Kargil war. It is the same nation for which the martyr’s father too served in the armed force. And for all this sacrifice and love towards the nation what he gets in return?

His daughter is not safe in the same country, she is being threatened with rape and murder, she is getting trolled for voicing against violence and above all she has to leave the city for security reasons. Is this the way a martyr’s family should be treated within his own country? Forget about showing respect towards the martyrs, these people can’t even respect the dignity of a female. However, it is commendable that in spite of all the threats the brave girl stands against the sick minded people. Seeing her daughter’s brave stand, the martyr’s soul will indeed be Proud.

I would like to end this blog with the hope that may we always choose a peaceful and a decent way of protesting against anything that we want to oppose. Let there be freedom of speech and expression in a real sense. For the sake of this nation, I urge everyone not to link each and everything with an anti-nation act. I wish that the Almighty give good sense to each one of us.

God Bless you all!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Common Man, Financial Risk, Frauds, Human Tendency, Management Lessons, Media, Personality, Privacy, Relationship, Security, Show Off, Slogging, Social Networking Platforms, Technology, Victim

Flaunting too much on social networking platforms? – Beware you are being watched

Are you obsessed with flaunting too much on social networking platforms? Do you enjoy sharing all the events happening in your personal life with the virtual world? Is everyone in your network always aware about your travelling plans? Do you feel proud in flashing with the online community, your event calendar, which comprises of all the forthcoming events that you are planning to attend? If your head nodded against any of the above questions then better beware because you are being watched.

At the outset, let me make it very clear that your social networking account is solely your property and it’s only you who have the right to decide that what and how much you want to reveal about yourself and your activities with the virtual world. I am no one to stop you from sharing your stuff with whoever you wish too. I very well know that it’s none of my business to interfere in your personal life. Hence, this blog is not meant to question your personal choice in any manner, rather it’s an attempt to throw some light on the risk involved with opening up too much on social networking platforms. I urge everyone to read this blog with an open mind and also educate others about the risk they carry with their social networking accounts.

No doubt there is an ocean of data available on the subjects pertaining to the dangers and precautions to be taken while dealing with the virtual world. Still, all of us tend to make mistakes every now and then and hence we need timely reminders to save us from any unfortunate event that might occur otherwise in our life. As such, I have tried to jot down three of the most common practical mistakes visible on social networking platforms which make us vulnerable to a lot of threatening incidences.

The three most common mistakes on social networking platforms are excessive sharing of –

  1. Personal Information – If you feel proud to share your personal life and most importantly your pictures every now and then revealing yourself in expensive attires, displaying the places you often visit, your workplace, your contact details, exposing the details about your family members, name of your kid’s school or any place they frequently visit, etcetera. Then better be cautious because you and your family members are prone to very high risk. The social networking platforms are being watched from every corner and who knows you might soon be hosting an uninvited guest knocking at your door. Sharing of excessive information might also lead to someone stalking you. So it’s better for you to keep a check on things you want to share with others so that you don’t risk your life, as well as, the life of your closed ones. Now next time before sharing too much of your personal information make sure that you at least have a Z+ security by your side to safeguard you from any kind of unwanted incidences happening in your life.
  1. Travel Plans – One of the biggest blunders being committed on social networking accounts is to share the travelling plans. I mean just imagine that you are leaving your home and you publish that information in front of the entire world. By this kind gesture of yours “especially towards the thieves” you not only open your gates for them to trespass your home with utmost ease but, at the same time, you also put the life of your loved ones back home, at stake. Just because you want to flaunt in front of the entire world that you are travelling to different locations on business, personal or vacation trips, you publish such critical information, which in itself is a sufficient data for a person with malicious intentions to take advantage of. Such casual posts of yours, act as the most vital information about your absence from the place of residence. Don’t forget that in this data mining age your account details could very well be churned up based on your past information to extract details such as the most likely time for your next vacation trip, etcetera. Now you can just imagine how safe you, your family members and your property back home is, after that post of yours. Isn’t it a suicidal attempt?
  1. Event Calendar – If you feel proud in flashing with the online community, your event calendar consisting of all the forthcoming events you are planning to attend in the near future, then it’s the right time for you to hear the danger bell ringing exclusively for you. No doubt you get that urge to exhibit in front of the entire world, the prestigious events (which others can’t afford to go) or even the social gatherings you are going to attend, but by this small act of yours, you simply give an opportunity to someone with malicious intentions to either stalk you or even trespass your place in your absence. Showcasing things to the outside world may be a matter of extreme pride for you, but do give it a thought that is your over flaunting attitude somehow making your life too prone to unwanted risk or what.

However, one could easily counter on this by replying that sharing their personal stuff is a means of being in touch with other people. If they wouldn’t be sharing all that, then such platforms would never have been a real success. If people like them don’t flaunt themselves on such platforms then how would others be able to pass their time? It’s only because of people like them who share the so-called interesting stuff that others get the opportunity to peek into their life and enjoy. To all this, I would simply like to say that we are extremely obliged to them for sharing their personal stuff in abundance and we also look forward to more and more “personal” stuff coming from them.

Now, it’s up to you whether you want to “Share Smartly or Simply Share”. The choice is yours after all life is yours. Further, if you think that sharing your details only with “Friends” or “Friends of Friends” is quite safe, then sooner or later this bubble of yours will get burst too, because when the social networking accounts of big personalities are easily being hacked then you can just imagine how safe your account is.

As rightly said by Mr. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “Precaution is better than cure”, so let us all be cautious before any unfortunate event happens with anyone of us because of our excessive information sharing attitude. Everything has a positive and a negative side attached to it and it’s for us to decide and take advantage of the positive side, while not getting carried away by the negative side. Stay safe and do take a very good care of yourself and everyone around you. Be guided and share the information with others too. Act smart and make use of the social networking platforms wisely.

Be in touch.

God Bless!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Belief, Depression, Hope, Human Tendency, Inspiration, Life, Management Lessons, Meditation, Motivation, Personality, Talent

Are you hunting for some motivation?

By any chance are you hunting for some motivation in the outside world? Thinking to get inspired from success stories of other persons? Wandering in search of that very stimulus which will ignite your life? Waiting for someone/something to pull you up from your current downtrodden situation? Seeking for some positive spark in your life? Hoping that one fine day you will get shaken up by the inspirational boosters and eventually your goals will be achieved? If the answer to any of these questions is in affirmative, then, fortunately, you have landed at the right place. In this blog let us try to locate the source of ‘real and everlasting’ motivation.

At the outset, I would like to comfort you by sharing the fact that if you are a motivation seeker then nothing to worry about because you are not sailing all alone in the boat. Indeed we all are hopping in the hunt for motivation, sometimes or the other. And, in fact, we always look outside for that dose of motivation. But did you ever think that is this exercise fruitful or not? Do we really get inspired by the outside world? And most importantly does this outside motivation have an everlasting impact on us or not?

We read inspiring stories, hear motivational audio, view the life changing videos, all in all, we go through every kind of motivational material that is accessible to us. The sole aim behind all this is to get inspired and thereby change our life into yet another success story. However, don’t you think that all this ultimately turns out to be a momentary motivation only? The impact of which lasts only for a few minutes, hours or maybe for a few days, and in reality, it actually fails to motivate us in the long run.

Herewith, let me make it very clear that I am not against any kind of motivational stuff; in fact, they are a great source of learning. However, my whole point is that all these motivational posts, quotes, stories, audio-video, etcetera, are good enough to boost our morale in that very moment or maybe for some more time, but they are not sufficient enough to leave an everlasting impact on our life. Hence, it’s a high time for us to diagnose the impact of outside motivation on our life. And if we find out that we are not getting much of the needed help from these momentary motivations, then we need to question ourselves that what is the alternative available for us to get motivated in the real sense?

Well, the answer to this life changing question is that we need to “Look within for inspiration”. It’s our own life story and it’s comparable to no one else’s life. Everyone has different struggles and a different way of tackling and overcoming them. We need to write our own success story and for that, we have to look within our own self for finding inspiration. There is no argument in the fact that we can take learning’s from other’s life and even get motivated from them. But the hard-core reality is that all these momentary motivations will eventually wipe-off, as soon as, the memory of that motivational thing is overpowered with other important or not-so-important things going on in our life. Hence, it’s only the motivation that emerges from within us, which is going to have an everlasting impact in our life and it is indeed the real motivation.

You may be down, you might have lost all the hopes, you are no more interested in your life, but do remember, that you are the same person who once used to crawl and then “on your own” learned to walk, as well as, run miles and miles. When on your own you can learn how to walk, even at the age when you have no life experiences, then what else could stop you from walking or running in the journey of your life?

Now every time you get disheartened, do remember that you need to get back to your inner-self and remind yourself about all those past incidences of your life in which you stood firmly against all the odds and finally came out as a winner to achieve your goals. And yes, there is no one on earth who has not achieved anything in their life. The achievements could be as small as learning to ride a vehicle, passing an exam, winning or even participating in a game and the list goes on and on. So the excuse that “I don’t have any achievements in my life” is a sheer crap. Hence, there is no point in hiding behind this excuse. So yes, “If you are hunting for some motivation, then do look within for inspiration”. Only then you will get motivated in a ‘real and an everlasting’ sense.

I do hope that now onwards you will find inspiration from within your own self and there will be a lot many success stories to share and learn from. I wish you all a very happy, motivated and a prosperous life.

Be in touch.

God Bless!

Peyush Jain