Posted in Friendship, Human Tendency, Life, Love, Relationship, Religion

Is there any reason that can stop friends to meet?

One feels highly obligated when on a short notice people turn up just to meet you and that too after commuting long distance “on a laid back Saturday evening”. That is what exactly happened, on the eve of Saturday, 8th October 2016, when my friends cared enough to meet me, in spite of them having some very genuine reasons to say ‘No’ and skip this unplanned meeting. Even reasons like severe neck pain, kid’s exam and most importantly tiresome long distances to be travelled by using different modes of transport “on jam-packed streets/bogies of a metro city”, could not come between our get together. Hell, I myself can’t even imagine doing it (You know, I am selfish). But, somehow this overwhelming act of theirs left me thinking that is there any reason that can stop friends to meet? Shouldn’t all relations be like that?

What more one needs to feel special about than to have such friends whom even though we might not have interacted since a very long time (forget about meeting them), yet they care to turn up for a meeting that is scheduled at the very last moment on some “shocking” phone calls? This is what friendship teaches us i.e. not to grow distances in our heart, in spite of the physical distances and the time lags between us, our meets and our interactions. Most of the times, we all have enough reasons to say a No, but at times what matters is just a Yes. Isn’t this true for a healthy bond in every relation?

If we look the other way round, then we will realize that there are a number of reasons to keep aside our differences and build our relationship stronger, with every passing day. “Friendship stands for growing up, keeping all our reasons aside and letting each other know that we are always there”. Shouldn’t this be the main ingredient for every successful relation? When one really intends to build a strong bond in any relationship, then they will go to the extreme and no reason could ever stop them from trying their level best to keep that relationship intact. Keeping aside our reasons (if possible) and doing that extra bit in any relationship makes a lot of difference.

In the same way, irrespective of our reasons, when we want to meet someone, we will surely find a way out to do that. For me, on last Saturday, there were a number of reasons to meet good hearted people like extracting past memories, forcefully making the partners in crime remember that they were involved in some foolish yet funny acts (which s/he pretends not to remember anymore), pulling legs (both hairy and waxed), laughing crazily till the stomach hurts, and, last but not the least, gossiping about ‘girls’ (obviously how can we skip the most interesting topic). All in all, just to spend quality time.

As it is said that the best gift one can give in this era is their precious time. Well, frankly there was no reason to pen down the last line and it was forcefully inserted from my end, just to give a hint to all those who expects a gift, when a miser person like me meets them (although my time is not that precious, still…). Well, jokes apart, I am highly indebted to all my friends who make me feel special sometime or the other, in some way or the other. Thanks for spending your precious and quality time with me.

At last, I would like to say that let’s all of us aspire to seed friendship in each and every relationship of ours. This is my humble request to each one of you that don’t betray your friends ever and always keep the trust and faith of friendship alive in your hearts.

Be in touch.

God bless you all!!!

Peyush Jain

Posted in Friendship, Human Tendency, Life, Love, Relationship, Religion, Worship

Friendship – A religion to cherish and worship

Friendship is a bond that flourishes on Trust and Understanding”. Everyone whom we trust and who understand us, and most importantly, our hidden emotions is a true friend. Even the stranger who is able to figure out the sorrow behind our happiness or the joy behind our tears is a friend in that moment. It wouldn’t be wrong on my part if I say that friendship is a cocktail of love, fun, craziness, freedom, openness etcetera. Friendship is also the key to peace and prosperity.

Friendship is a voyage without an end” – Free End Ship. “Friendship never dies, friends do”. There are people who may or may not be a part of our life anymore, but that doesn’t mean that friendship dies when a person leaves us. “Friendship is not just about being in touch, but it’s all about the impact of someone’s touch on our life”. Even if you think that a person betrayed you then also that person taught you life lessons which actually have a huge impact on your life. Now, it’s up to us whether or not we want to treasure the good times and embrace the learning’s from every living being that we met in this beautiful journey of our life.

Friendship is more than a relation, “It’s a religion to cherish and worship“. Yes, you heard it right; friendship for me is a religion. If you think that I am not in my senses to say something like that, then I would request you to first ask yourself a simple question that what according to you a religion should be like? Shouldn’t a religion be something that breaks all the barriers and considers every living being at par, irrespective of their caste, creed, colour, race etcetera? If the answer to this question is in affirmative then friendship undoubtedly fits the definition of a religion because indeed it breaks all the barriers.

On a second thought, I think that friendship is not a religion. Oh please, don’t raise your eyebrows. What I mean to say is that friendship is not a religion rather it’s a “Universal Religion” because it is the main ingredient of every relation. No matter whatever name we address a relationship with, it should comprise friendship in it. If any relation lacks friendship, then it’s not complete in the real sense. S/he may be our spouse, parent, teacher, boss, neighbour etcetera, but if that person is not our friend then that relationship will always lack the real bonding.

For me, friendship is the essence of every relationship. As per my view, none of the relation could prosper without friendship. However, there are people who originate from the school of thought which preaches that formal relations should debar friendship from it. But tell me one thing will any of such relationship ever grow into an open relationship? Wouldn’t people refrain from speaking their mind and heart out in such relationships? How could a boss and a subordinate or for that reason even a parent and a child feel free to express their thoughts when they are not a friend of each other? Being a friend doesn’t mean just to roam about clinging hands on each other’s shoulders, but it’s far above all these things. It’s a matter of openness; it’s a matter of sharing thoughts with the utmost freedom.

So this friendship day let’s pledge to befriend with each and every living being. My heartiest thanks to everyone who was, is and will be a friend in someone’s life. Kyunki har ek friend zaroori hota hai (Because each and every friend is important).

Happy Friendship Day! Be in touch. God bless you all.

Peyush Jain

Posted in Forgiveness, Friendship, Human Tendency, Life, Love, Relationship

Are the grapes really sour?

Are the grapes really sour? Well, if we look around and analyse our own conduct, we will certainly realize that most of the time when we could not catch hold of something, be it our dream, our job, our relationship etcetera, we try really hard to prove that the “Grapes are really sour”. But, is it the right attitude and the right way of dealing with anything that did not go as per our liking? Can’t we accept the outcome with dignity and let go things that are actually not in our control?

To understand this in a better way, let us observe our reactions, our feelings, our thoughts in two typical situations which we encounter in our life. First, when we are into a relationship and Second when we are out of that relationship. Did you ever notice that our thoughts drastically change when we move from the first situation into the second situation? The person who was once an important part of our life, whose mistakes we found funny and were happy in ignoring them, whose ignorance we were considering as cuteness, whose presence meant the world to us and a lot many of such things suddenly got changed, as and when we were out of that relationship.

When we are no more into that relationship, we find the other person as the rudest living being present on earth, someone who is the most careless soul we ever came across, somebody who is heartless, irritating etcetera. To sum up, all the acts of such person seems to be wrong, as soon as, the person is no more a part of our life. But, wait for a second and just think that are those thoughts for the same person, who was once the reason behind that beautiful smile which adorns your face?

Similarly, we tend to criticize each and everything that did not happen as per our willingness. Suppose, if we are not able to perform well, then we start finding fault in others. Haven’t we all pointed fingers, at some point in time, towards our supervisor, colleague, parents, siblings, better half etcetera? However, we forget to introspect what went wrong at our end. Do remember that it’s our life and we are solely responsible for everything that happens with us.

So what if we could not get what we wanted to achieve? So what if we could not perform as per the expectations? We should be contented with the fact that we tried our best and if we are committed to trying harder in future then that’s all actually matters in life. “Try your best and leave the rest” should be the motto of life. As beautifully written by Mr. Harivansh Rai Bachchan, “Mann ka ho toh accha, Mann ka na ho toh zyada accha”. Which means, if things happen as per our wish then it is good, but if it doesn’t happen as per our wish then it is even better because then it happens as per the wish of the Almighty, who always thinks best for us.

By sticking to the thoughts and continuously sobbing over things “which are not in our control”, we are doing harm to none other than our own self. So, let’s stop disgracing ourselves by thinking in that manner. At least we should respect ourselves and our choice. Let us relish the memorable moments that we spent in this beautiful journey of life and “Let Go” the others.

So now onwards instead of proving that the grapes are sour, let the grapes be enjoyed by those who are destined to do that. I am sure there is another bunch waiting for us to relish. It’s just that we need to identify it, grab it and enjoy.

Live and let others live happily too!

Peyush Jain