Today, I am here to accept and reveal the fact that I am Judgemental (as if anyone cares). Okay, I accept that I am mental too, but that’s not the point of discussion in this blog, so you better concentrate on the core issue right now, instead of forcing me to reveal all my unique characteristics here. You can accuse me as much as you want but that’s still not going to change the fact, even a bit. I am Judgemental and I am going to stay like that forever.
Sorry to disappoint you, but I am not ashamed in accepting the fact that I am Judgemental. On the contrary, I feel proud of “Being Judgemental”. Hey, what did you just murmur? You think it’s a matter of shame for me? Trust me, after reading this blog, you yourself are going to be desperate enough to “Be Judgemental” [Shhh! This is a trap to make you read my blog (*Winks*)].
To start with, let us refer a dictionary to check and understand what does the word ‘Judgemental’ actually mean? Out of the 7 definitions available, I think the one that most appropriately defines the word Judgemental is “The capacity to assess situations or circumstances shrewdly and to draw sound conclusions”. [Reference: Word Web Dictionary, the free version (I am miser too)].
Now let us try to dissect and understand the essence of this definition.
- “The capacity to assess situations or circumstances” – The definition starts with these words, which actually refers to the potentiality of someone to evaluate situations or circumstances. These carefully chosen words indicate towards a person who possesses the skill to appraise situations/circumstances/individuals that come across her/him.
- “Shrewdly” – Then comes the word shrewdly in the definition. The word Shrewd herewith means “Marked by practical hard-headed intelligence”. Practical hard-headed means that the level of intelligence needs to be guided by practical experience and observation rather than theory. [Reference: Word Web Dictionary].
- “And to draw sound conclusions” – The definition ends with these words, which in fact means that the ultimate aim towards assessing anything is to draw sound conclusions. A sound conclusion may signify an outcome which is good enough or which can be logically validated. These words represent that Judgemental Person’s always aspire to achieve sound results by their judgements.
Hence, from the above-mentioned definition, we can conclude that “A Judgemental person signifies someone who is smart and capable enough to evaluate situations/circumstances/individuals, with a practically hard-headed intelligence, in order to draw sound conclusions”. Ahem! Doesn’t the word “Judgemental” or “Being Judgemental” sound good all of a sudden? And till now you were unnecessarily feeling bad over someone calling or rather accusing you of “Being Judgemental”.
I am sure after reading and most importantly ‘understanding’ the above definition, the majority of the readers will agree with me that they are Judgemental and there is nothing wrong in “Being Judgemental”. (See I am again Judgemental to think that majority of the readers are smart enough). In fact “Being Judgemental” is the best trait one can and should possess. So don’t you all think that you are smart enough to possess this quality of “Being Judgemental”?
In case you still have some doubts left, then also nothing to worry about because I am not going to leave you in the middle of nowhere and vanish just like that. In the following paragraphs, I will try to explain with the logic that how and why “Being Judgemental” is extremely important for all of us (just like intake of oxygen).
Do you take any decision based on your Gut Feelings? Did you ever give it a thought that how your gut feelings actually work? Let me tell you that “Gut feelings work only when we are Judgemental about a situation/circumstance/individual”. Hence, the prerequisite for Gut Feelings is “Being Judgemental”. If you are not Judgemental in assessing a situation or a person well in advance, then do you even think that it will be possible for you to take any decision based on your gut feelings?
All those who encounter situations wherein they have to make choices based on their gut feelings are in a far better position to understand this point. Say, for example, you are all alone on a lonely road, at some odd hour of the day, and you desperately need help from someone to drop you home. Now in this situation, just think that will you blindly take help from the very first person who arrives on that lonely road or will you activate your gut feelings to decide from whom you need to take help, out of all those persons who come forward to offer you help? Without fail you have to be Judgemental in this situation so that you can save yourself from an alarming situation. Hence, knowingly or unknowingly we all are Judgemental.
Irrespective of all the above positive sides about “Being Judgemental”, let me warn you that there is a negative side attached to it as well. The only problem with “Being Judgemental” arises when we are not ready to accept the ‘reality’ over our judgement. I mean a lot many times our judgement will turn out to be wrong (For your information, my ratio of Judgement turning out to be wrong is 100%).
In all such situations when our judgement goes wrong, what is required from our end is to show some maturity and accept the fact that we are humans, and hence, we can go wrong at times in judging the people or the output of any circumstance/situation. Sticking to our Judgement, even after it turns out to be wrong, is simply foolishness on our part. Instead, it will be better on our part to accept the reality and take learning from it, so that we can be a better Judge the next time. If we can win over this shortcoming of ours then trust me “Being Judgemental” is a characteristic which everyone should possess and in fact feel proud about it.
I hope that it is very much clear now that there goes a lot of thought process in “Being Judgemental”. So each one of you should be extremely proud for “Being Judgemental” and pat your back for owning such a good quality (*Collars Up*). All those who still have any doubts on this subject matter are requested to read this blog again and again, till they get assured about the goodness of this characteristic.
The next time anyone accuses you of “Being Judgemental”, do thank him/her/it (‘it’ because even robots can accuse us in this digital age). And don’t you dare forget to thank me in your mind on every such occasion, else I am going to Judge you as “Being Ungrateful” (*Coughs*).
God Bless you all! Stay in touch.