Posted in Depression, Human Tendency, Life

Depression – A Clash of Actual vs. Expectation

Depression is defined as “A mental state characterized by a pessimistic sense of inadequacy and a despondent lack of activity”. (Courtesy: Word Web Dictionary). At the start of this blog, I would like to inform that I am not a doctor, researcher, or the subject matter expert. However, I have my eyes and ears open and could sense a lot of depressed soul in this world. So this blog is an attempt to share the thoughts about depression from a layman’s point of view. Hope my effort could instil life in the depressed souls.

As per my view, depression is the end result of “negative” thoughts that overpowers our mind. If we conduct a root cause analysis of depression, then we will reach on to the conclusion that there is only one factor that leads to the state of depression i.e. “Our inability to accept the actual result, as against our expectation”. Let us understand this by picking up some simple incidences from our routine life. Say for example, when we don’t score good grades in the exams, when we are not able to get something that we desire, like a good job, someone whom we love, etcetera then eventually we get depressed because the results were not as “expected” by us.

If we closely examine all the above-mentioned situations then we will realize that there is a clash of Actual vs. Expectation in our mind. Now, it will be prudent to mention here that all those who can accept the actual result, as it is, and take learning’s from the same, would never get trapped into the vicious circle of depression. However, those who can’t get over with their expectations and keep sticking to the negative thoughts that strike their mind will eventually sink into the mire of depression.

At times, we compare ourselves, our life, our achievement, all in all, each and everything with someone else. But at the same time, we forget to take into consideration all the pains/struggle with which the other person has gone through. We try to see only one side of the life of the person with whom we compare ourselves. What is the sheer point in comparing ourselves with someone else, when no one in the world is alike? By comparing ourselves with others we disgrace no one else but our own self.

We should keep in mind that to get depressed is a normal state of mind, so there is nothing unusual in that. Every living being gets depressed on non-fulfilment of their desires, on non-achievement of the results etcetera. However, what leads to the state of chronic depression “as a disease”, is when we can’t get over with that state of mind. Getting depressed should be a momentary state and one should know how to “divert” their mind and come out of that situation, as soon as possible. If we are able to get our mind and heart diverted then we can win over all the negative thoughts, at any point of time in our life.

When we are in a stable set of mind, it will be beneficial for us to introspect that are we ready to accept the results that come our way or not. If not, then it’s a high time we train our mind to be contented with what we achieve in this journey of life. Once a person gets into the state of depression it is very difficult to think about their inner self. The medicines become a part and parcel of the routine life and a depressed soul loose trust on almost everyone. So it’s better to test ourselves before it’s too late.

Just remember that no one in this world is happy. People who “stay” happy are the one who is contented with what they have. “Being contented is the art of accepting the results, against the expectations”. One who is contented will never get into the state of depression in life. However, being contented does not mean that one stops striving for excellence. Accepting the present, contenting with what one achieves and moving on for a better result in the future should be the motto of our life.

So guys win over the negative thoughts and live a peaceful, contented and happy life.

God Bless every soul!

Peyush Jain



A writer at heart and creative at art. Someone who wants his words to leave an impact. Someone who is hungry for genuine feedback and not the number of likes. The thought behind my writing has always been to revolutionize the thought process which is overpowered with the set obsolete parameters, as well as, to bring into life, a new perspective towards everything around us. When I am penning down these lines, the beautiful composition by Mr. Dushyant Kumar Tyagi strikes my mind, "Sirf hungama khada karna mera maksad nahi, Meri koshish hai ki yeh soorat badalni chahiye; Merey seeney mein nahi to terey seeney mein sahi, Ho kahin bhi aag lekin aag jalni chahiye". The meaning of this verse (in my words) is that - My only motive is not of rabble-rousing, but my efforts are directed towards bringing about a change; I want the fire of awareness to lit somewhere, if not in my heart then maybe in yours, but the fire has to lit. Readers are a writer’s strength and one of the motivating factors that keep the writer always alive. All the honest readers are undoubtedly the unbiased mirror of a writer’s content. Hope the readers like my blogs and could correlate with them. It will be an honour if the readers are able to gain something worth from my write ups. At the same time, it will be my pleasure to know your honest views. Each and every single feedback is highly appreciated. So do not hesitate to comment with utmost truth in your words. Keep reading and keep learning. I wish you all a very healthy, happy and a prosperous life. Love to all. Be in touch. Take care and God Bless!

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